Laser,
This is more of an "after the game wrap up", but Solitude is irrelevant. I know a little more about him and he needs to do some growing up before he will be ready to benefit from (or even identify) generous help. He doesn't lack for ego and if he was proud of who he was or where he was he would have told us. Maybe in a few years after he has followed Jon's advise and been burned then tried it again and been chastised and then tried it again and come to realize how little he really knows then he will reappear under a new name and be wiling to listen a little harder.