how old is your FB3? Mine has "analog" blanking outputs. your laser is blanking, right? did you try connecting to the ttl input on your laser? I have a 100mw 473 from LW, and it has two inputs, one ttl, one analog, though that is the simplest solution, and it sounds like you already tried it.
can you use the intensity setting in the control software to fade the laser light up and down, but it only blanks during playback?
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